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Welcome to Your Village Home

You’re doing the hardest job in the world — and you’re doing it beautifully.
Village Found is your cozy corner of the internet: expert-backed advice, fast emotional support, and no judgment — just love.
Whether you’re 1 week postpartum or 6 months deep, you belong here.

For You, Mama: Emotional Health

Because raising a human starts with caring for you.

✨ Feeling Overwhelmed or Anxious?
Grounding exercises, breathing tools, and quick 2AM pep talks.

✨ Understanding Postpartum Emotions
What’s normal, what’s common, and when it’s okay to ask for extra help.

✨ Navigating Identity Shifts
It’s okay if you don’t recognize yourself some days — we’ll help you reconnect.

✨ Relationship Support
How to stay close with your partner (and yourself) through sleep deprivation and baby fog.

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Mood Tracker Tool

How are you feeling right now?

For Your Baby: Newborn Care (0–6 Months)

Because tiny humans come with big questions.

Mama Mind Notes

The Lie of ‘Bounce Back

You’re not "bouncing back" — you’re moving forward into a stronger, wiser version of yourself.

Feeding FAQs

Cluster feeding, bottle battles, and growth spurts explained simply.

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Village Whisper

Use a consistent white noise sound to help signal sleep time for your baby — ocean waves or rainfall are best.

Feeling Overwhelmed or Anxious

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Mama Mind Notes

Comparison is a Crooked Mirror

Other people’s highlight reels don’t show their 3am sob sessions — honor your own real story.

First Milestones (No Pressure)

Tummy time, rolling, sitting up — and why every baby moves at their own speed.

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Naptime Nesting

Recreate womb-like coziness for naps: dim light, warm huggy blankets (but keep it safe — no loose fluff!).

Understanding Crying

When to soothe, when to breathe, when to high-five yourself for surviving.

Your 60-Second Calm Tool

Ready to reset your mind?

Follow the circle below: inhale as it grows, exhale as it shrinks.

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Ask Those Who Know

Ask Your Question
All Categories Baby Emotional Wellness Feeding Motherhood

How much do I feed my baby, he is 3 months old.

By 3 months old a bottle fed baby eating every 3-4 hours will take in between 24 and 32 oz in a 24 hour period (avg 4-5 oz per bottle). But remember, babies are people too and they dont always each the same every day, every week - this is an average.

Lisa Tremayne

Lisa Tremayne

Director of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders Center

Feeding
April 26, 2025

How come I could run a project at work with a bunch of people listening to me, but I feel like I cant handle a little baby.

Because at that time, you were just taking care of you. This is a baby that is completely reliant for every single thing on you! And you are tired and out of routine and have zero experience with this particular little human.

Lisa Tremayne

Lisa Tremayne

Director of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders Center

Motherhood
April 26, 2025

I am questioning whether I made a mistake?

If you are questioning whether you made a mistake having your baby, this is completely normal. You're exhausted, your hormones are out of wack, and you might feel alone or isolated for this first time in your life. You didn't make a mistake at all, and you will stop feeling like this soon - you will!

Lisa Tremayne

Lisa Tremayne

Director of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders Center

Emotional Wellness
April 26, 2025

Grounding Exercise (5-4-3-2-1)

(Use this simple method to calm your mind and anchor in the now.)

  1. 5 Name five things you can see:
  2. 4 Notice four things you can feel:
  3. 3 Listen for three things you can hear:
  4. 2 Name two things you can smell (or imagine a favorite scent):
  5. 1 Think of one thing you are grateful for right now:

Take a deep breath. You've got this.

Is It Normal If…

Motherhood shifts everything — schedules, sleep, even love. If you’re wondering whether your relationship is changing “too much,” you’re not alone.
These are the questions whispered at midnight. Let’s normalize the answers.

Is it normal to feel emotionally distant from my partner?

Yes. Sleep deprivation, hormone swings, and the complete overhaul of daily life can create space between you.
Distance doesn’t mean the end — it means it’s time for gentle bridges, not guilt.

“What if I’m not in the mood for physical touch — from anyone?”

Totally normal. Being constantly needed can make you feel touched out.
You’re allowed to protect your boundaries, even from those you love. Communicate with kindness — your body is not broken, it’s just been busy being magic.

“Why do we keep snapping at each other over tiny things?”

It’s not about the dishes. It’s about feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or unsupported.
Tiny things feel big when your capacity is low. Conflict isn’t failure — it’s a flag that something needs care.

“Am I the only one who feels like we’re roommates?”

Not even close. Many couples shift into “co-managers of survival” mode.
The love is still there — it’s just buried under bottle warmers and white noise. You don’t need grand gestures — you need small signs that you’re still a team.

“Is it selfish to want space to myself?”

No. Wanting to be alone doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby or your partner — it means you’re human.
Refilling your own cup is not selfish. It’s sacred.

“What if I feel more connected to my baby than my partner?”

That’s completely normal — and common. Bonding with your baby taps into primal, round-the-clock caregiving instincts.
It doesn’t mean you’ve fallen out of love; it means your emotional bandwidth is focused where it’s most urgently needed. Let the baby bond be your anchor — not a wedge. The partnership can come back into focus with time, care, and patience.

Is It Normal If…

Motherhood shifts everything — schedules, sleep, even love. If you’re wondering whether your relationship is changing “too much,” you’re not alone.
These are the questions whispered at midnight. Let’s normalize the answers.

Is it normal to feel emotionally distant from my partner?

Yes. Sleep deprivation, hormone swings, and the complete overhaul of daily life can create space between you.
Distance doesn’t mean the end — it means it’s time for gentle bridges, not guilt.

“What if I’m not in the mood for physical touch — from anyone?”

Totally normal. Being constantly needed can make you feel touched out.
You’re allowed to protect your boundaries, even from those you love. Communicate with kindness — your body is not broken, it’s just been busy being magic.

“Why do we keep snapping at each other over tiny things?”

It’s not about the dishes. It’s about feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or unsupported.
Tiny things feel big when your capacity is low. Conflict isn’t failure — it’s a flag that something needs care.

“Am I the only one who feels like we’re roommates?”

Not even close. Many couples shift into “co-managers of survival” mode.
The love is still there — it’s just buried under bottle warmers and white noise. You don’t need grand gestures — you need small signs that you’re still a team.

“Is it selfish to want space to myself?”

No. Wanting to be alone doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby or your partner — it means you’re human.
Refilling your own cup is not selfish. It’s sacred.

“What if I feel more connected to my baby than my partner?”

That’s completely normal — and common. Bonding with your baby taps into primal, round-the-clock caregiving instincts.
It doesn’t mean you’ve fallen out of love; it means your emotional bandwidth is focused where it’s most urgently needed. Let the baby bond be your anchor — not a wedge. The partnership can come back into focus with time, care, and patience.

From Understanding to Action: 5-Minute Reconnect Rituals

(for you + your partner — or just you, beautifully solo)

Let’s be real: most couples don’t have time for weekly date nights when they’re running on fumes.
But connection doesn’t have to be big to be beautiful.
Here are some tiny, powerful rituals you can try right now — with your partner or solo.

You’re not “failing” because things feel hard. You’re just becoming new — together, and alone.


The goal isn’t perfection. It’s staying soft where you can, honest where you must, and held however you need.

For Couples

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30-Second Eye Contact Reset

Hold eye contact for 30 seconds. No words, no phones. Just look — like you used to.

Sticky Note Love Notes

Sticky Note Love Notes

One quick post-it on the fridge or bathroom mirror. “I saw how tired you were. You’re doing amazing.”

Tag Team Touch

Tag Team Touch

A short back rub. A hand squeeze while passing the baby. The physical equivalent of “I’m here.”

Silent Sits

Silent Sits

Sit together in quiet for 5 minutes at the end of the day. Let your nervous systems sync.

Name the Next One

Name the Next One

Say out loud when your next real date or moment alone will be — even if it’s two weeks from now.

Solo Reconnects (Because You Matter Too)

Mirror Moment

Mirror Moment

Look at yourself and say, “I’m proud of you.” Say it even if you don’t believe it yet. Especially then.

Breath + Body Check

Put one hand on your chest and one on your belly. Inhale for 4, exhale for 6. Feel yourself return.

Make a list

“Today I Survived...” List

Grab a pen and jot down 3 things you did today — no matter how small. Fed someone? Brushed your teeth? Answered 4,000 “what’s that” questions? You win.

Voice Memo

Voice Memo to Future You

Record a 30-second voice memo to the version of you six months from now. She will listen to it and weep with gratitude.

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Cup of Something Ceremony

Tea, warm milk, even water. Drink it slowly. No multitasking. Let this be a moment of you with you.